Some friendships are seasonal and some last a lifetime. Each person has his or her own idea of what a friend is. No one wants a friend that is disloyal, dishonest or deceiving. If you value friendship, you want a loyal friend, someone you can trust, someone you can count on and have your back. None of us want a friend that is only loyal in our presence. You don’t want a friend that will betray your trust in your absence. We must have the good qualities we want in friendships ourselves if we expect others to have them. There are good friends, there are bad friends. You are one or the other or has been one or the other. If you have been a good friend but have not had a good friend, that is okay. Learn from it and move on. Continue to be good to others, don’t start sowing the bad seed of friendship. Regardless of what your idea of a faithful friend is, we could all use a friend like Jonathan, David’s friend.
“Jonathan went to find David and encouraged him to stay strong in his faith in God. “Don’t be afraid,” Jonathan reassured him. “My father will never find you! You are going to be the king of Israel, and I will be next to you, as my father, Saul, is well aware.” So the two of them renewed their solemn pact before the LORD. Then Jonathan returned home, while David stayed at Horesh.” 1 Samuel 23:16-18
Saul haunted for David day after day to kill him but God didn’t let Saul find David. Imagine how you would feel, on the run for your life because someone is on a daily quest to kill you. David was anointed to be king and God was with him but he had enemies. God protected David from harm and his enemies. There’s no doubt in my mind David was down, troubled, possibly depressed, and terrified. David had a wise friend. One who could encourage him in his time of trouble. Jonathan wasn’t just a wise friend but he was a loyal friend to David. “Jonathan went to find David and encouraged him to stay strong in his faith in God. “Don’t be afraid,” Jonathan reassured him. “My father will never find you! You are going to be the king of Israel, and I will be next to you, as my father, Saul, is well aware.”” 1 Samuel 23:16-17
It takes a wise friend to remind you to stay strong in your faith in God during what may seem to you the most terrifying season of your life. Jonathan reminded David who God already anointed him to be and not even own father could change that. He reassured David of the will of God and his loyalty to him as a friend. He was not afraid to let David’s enemy (his own father) know where he stands. We all need a friend like Jonathan that is going to encourage us during our trials, remind us to stay strong in our faith in God, and will be a loyal friend to stand with us through our trials. We know we don’t wrestle against flesh and blood. We all need a friend that will stand with us in prayer and be an encouragement. Find a friend that encourages you to seek God’s wisdom and trust in God. We don’t want friends like the three friends Job had (Bildad, Eliphaz, & Zophar). Friends that will mock us and speak evil of us. Sometimes, God will use people as his device to allow infliction and fulfill his purpose in our lives. We don’t want a friend like Amnon had (Jonadab); he advised him to his own destruction. At times, we tend to forget what God has already done for us, how he brought us through and out, and nothing is too hard for him. Our circumstances can cause us to be fearful and feel hopeless. We may be so troubled at times we fail to pray or please God in our faith. It is impossible to please God without faith. In your difficult seasons, you need a friend like Jonathan to remind you to stand strong in your faith in the Lord. God’s will, will prevail!
”Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character”. 1 Corinthians 15:33
“Elijah said to Elisha, “Stay here; the LORD has sent me to Bethel.” But Elisha said, “As surely as the LORD lives and as you live, I will not leave you.” So they went down to Bethel.” 2 Kings 2:2
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24
“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” Proverbs 22:24-25
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Proverbs 13:20
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17
“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26